Man, that sounds depressing!
What exactly brought that on?
I mean, I guess you are right...hardly anyone makes a decision that they think will end in self destruction.
Umm, well, wait a minute...I can think of many singles who make lots of decisions that are not in their best interest! At least not logically!
But anyway, the way you put it sounds so depressing. Maybe we could say that people are always looking out for number one, but to improve their lives, to grow, to change, because they hold a vision of tomorrow that is better than today.
At least that's what I hope for!
But, yes, many people do get stuck in "preservation" mode, instead of "growth" mode.
And that's the kiss of death when trying to find the perfect partner.
You've got to break out of old molds, discard old patterns, and embrace new ways of being in the world and in relationships.
Only then can the story finally have a happy ending!
Readers: What do you think- are the people you meet stuck in self preservation or are they flowing in self-growth???