Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Mismatched Future Vision? A Deal Breaker!

I’m glad you had a good time and are having fun with the dating- that's what's important!

Your question: When guys say those things, I very much believe them.

That is not the time to think you can change someone!

Very occasionally someone will change their mind, but it is unlikely in someone who is past his 20’s. He’s been around the block enough times to know!

So you are right- ignoring it wouldn’t be smart!

And just deleting him may be premature.

I would do JUST as you said- let him make the next step- if he chooses to- then address it on the next date or phone call, whichever you are comfortable with.

It would be a mistake to allow yourself to enjoy him too much or get emotionally invested in him if he doesn't want to end up in the same place as you.

Mismatched visions for the future are a definite deal breaker!

So I'd clarify it with him soon! And you can do that by talking about what your vision of the future is and asking for his comments.

To our readers: I’d be curious to know, have you ever *successfully* changed a man or woman’s mind about the level of commitment they wanted for the long term? Please comment.

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