Dear Dr. Jenn,
Help!!! I feel like I am in a juggling rut.
Rather than juggling with good potential guys, if feels like I am looking for the one with the least flaws, and something seems wrong about this.
I am more confused than ever about men and dating.
I have about 7 guys who are interested, so there is no real shortage I guess, just lots of confusion on my part, in that none of them seem to be right enough, for all sorts of different reason.
I absolutely LOVE the communications I share with one guy, but he’s halfway across the country! We have a lot in common in creating things, and the way we see life, and I absolutely love his emails.
What to do, what to do. Just continue I guess, until one feels very, very right. Right?
I’d like to ask you: What is it that’s making you more confused than ever?
You know What You Want- and what is right in front of you isn’t What You Want, right?
But, having what you Don’t Want in front of you, makes it even clearer- What You Do Want!!
That is it’s gift! More clarity!
Where you are at right now- is where people tend to get supremely frustrated and give up.
They think: “I’m trying this Law of Attraction thing, I’m trying to focus on What I Want- and still what I Don’t Want keeps showing up!”
And they start to think this whole Law of Attraction thing- Like Attracting Like- simply doesn’t work.
And, that’s where the confusion comes in.
Because a lot of folks who have learned about the Law of Attraction, have NOT learned about it’s best friend, the Law of Opposites.
The two always work in Tandem.
The Law of Opposites says once you get very clear on What You Want- all of it’s opposites will show up.
Yes, that’s right- when you clearly call in What You Want- the first thing that will happen is more of What You Don’t Want will arrive in your life!!!
Stay with me here, because this is very important.
If you already were, right now, in total harmony with What You Want- it WOULD be in your life, NOW.
So, to get to where your vibration IS in full alignment with your Desire- what would have to happen?
Everything that was NOT in proper vibration would have to be brought up, so you could look at it, heal it, and release it.
This process would be the gift that offers you the opportunity to get into fuller alignment with your desire- Love.
That’s why Everything You Don’t Want shows up- so you can clear and release the patterns that no longer serve you.
And honestly, that can take some time, since most of us need time to truly let go and develop a new, more positive habit.
I love the way Neale Donald Walsch talks about this in his book Happier than God- he says that people have it backwards. They get all depressed and angry when What They Don’t Want shows up. Because they think it means they aren’t getting closer to What They Want. And then they go and ruin their positive vibration by focusing on all that is “Wrong”.
But the opposite is true! He states that when everything opposite shows up it's actually a great sign that What You Want is just around the corner!
But, only IF you stay SUPER CLEAR on What You Want- rather than get distracted by everything around you that You Don’t Want.
So right now, you are simply being called to remain steadfast and clear- and about What You Do Want.
There is no need for confusion or worry- It’s simply an invitation to stay absolutely crystal clear about what you DO WANT! That is all that is needed right now!
Just keep Holding the Vision and every day, many times a day if necessary, Refocus on What You WANT!
You are right, don't bother with the men who don't feel right.
Just take a pass on them. Once you know it isn’t a good fit- you don’t have to juggle them- just keep moving on.
Kinda like this.
- David shows up who has sleep apnea and you aren’t attracted to him.
“Thank you Universe for sending me David- to highlight what I do what. Here’s what I do want: A healthy guy I am wonderfully attracted to.” Spend a moment feeling the happiness of THAT guy in your life.
- Terry shows up who is horribly messy and very overweight.
“Thank you Universe for sending me Terry. Here’s what I do want: An organized guy who’s committed to doing whatever it takes to remain happy and healthy so we can grow old together.” Spend a moment feeling the happiness of THAT guy in your life.
- Chuck shows up who seems VERY complicated and very serious about life, and very perfectionist.
“Thank you Universe for sending me Chuck. Here’s what I do want: A guy who’s easy going and we share comfortable, fun-loving laughter together.” Spend a moment feeling the happiness of THAT guy in your life.
The idea is to take what the situation has shown to you is What You Don’t Want- and use it to immediately reaffirm What You Do Want!
Spend no more time on focusing on what isn’t right. Let it go and keep your attention on Your Gorgeous Vision of Love.
The key is to stay positively patient, yet proactive at the same time. I know you can do it!
Readers: How has the arrival of What You Don't Want actually helped you achieve what You Do Want?? Please share!