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Exciting Change to Our Format: Video Blog!

Wow! It's been almost a year since we've chatted!

Our courageous, intrepid single in the trenches had some medical concerns so we took a hiatus.

The good news is that she's back to dating, found a real sweetie, and having a blast!

So, we're going to take this opportunity to do something I've had on my mind for quite some time: A Video Blog!

Right here, I'm going to be delivering to you, my savvy singles, Authentic Dating tips designed to help you connect from the heart so you can build a love that lasts!

All in under 5 minutes or less!

So tighten your seatbelt- we're going on the most important journey of all- the one to True Love!

And while we're at it, head on over to our newly launched site mysoulmatesolution.com, to take my Attractor Factor Quiz and find out just how long it's going to be until YOU attract the love you've been waiting for!

After your quiz, stop back by here and let us know how long it's going to be for you-and what you are going to do to FAST FORWARD to your vision of love!

Are You Missing the Single Most Magical Key to Attracting Love?

Dr. Jenn,

I am strongly feeling a need to be doing creative things. So, for the next 30 days I’m doing a journal writing down all the things I love about myself.

Hopefully, they will be integrated as part of me and mirrored by the new man in my life. I like that idea and I can do it!!!

If I can love all of these things about myself then they will be right out there, for a man to love too. Right?

Lisa

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Hey Lisa!

THAT is a FANTASTIC idea!

Attracting your soulmate is all about stepping into your Best Self which attracts your Perfect Partner- the partner that is the best possible complement for you!

The easiest way to step into your Best Self is to love yourself and a wonderful way to do that is to consciously honor all of the amazing things about yourself- daily!

As you are consciously aware of the things that make you remarkable- you are stepping into those parts of yourself more fully, embodying them with more truth.

The result?

You are shining the light of those qualities more strongly out into the world- making you glow brighter, with the charm of authentic charisma- like a giant Soulmate Magnet, of course!

People around you will FEEL the difference and be drawn to it magnetically, without even knowing why!

The effect of this is that the men who are drawn in will be the ones who naturally, easily, effortlessly appreciate Who You Really Are! How wonderful is that?!

Plus, since you are shining the light of pure goodness, strength, and beauty- you will attract a man who also stands in his strength- one who is happy, healthy, and emotionally available to create a lasting love.

So, the bottom line is:
If someone wanted to focus on only one thing to attract their soulmate, it would be this one thing you are doing! Focusing on why you are so very awesome right to the core!

That is the magical place that allows soulmate love to be drawn into your life!

I’m excited for you. Let me know how it goes! And how it feels!

Dr. Jenn

Weeding Out Men: The Thoughtfulness Quotient

Dr. Jenn,

About two months ago I was talking to about seven guys, and this includes emailing and phone conversations. Since then I have met three of those guys and Rick is the guy at the top of the list.

Rick already had several bonus points for calling to check up on me both before and after I was going in for surgery two weeks ago, and he apparently really cared and wanted to know how I was doing. I was quite touched by this.

Two other guys I was talking to around that time- who also knew about my pending surgery- did not even ask about it, but rather just talked about THEIR stuff, including distant relatives.

I was facing some potentially scary news, and I really appreciated Rick's concern and thoughtfulness, even though we had not met in person. Rick has a WONDERFUL sense of humor and we always find great things to talk about and funny stories to tell, and our conversations seem very balanced.

We finally met on Friday night! It was warm and friendly and we plan to see each other again soon.

I like that Rick's kids are both married and on their own and doing well, like mine. And I also like that he has a great little dog and that he relates well to dogs. And I LOVE his sense of humor, and his obvious caring personality.

Yep, this one has potential!! I’ll keep you in the loop!

Lisa
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Hi Lisa!

While having the surgery was no walk in the park- it certainly gave you the opportunity to see how the men would behave when you could use some support! Bonus!

Sounds like Rick passed with flying colors!

It’s never too early to treat each other with thoughtful kindness, empathy, and respect. I call this the Thoughtfulness Quotient- and you can usually feel this right away with a person!

And when you get Rick’s kind of treatment, right out of the gate- BEFORE even meeting, well that tells you volumes about the kind of person he is, doesn’t it?!

The fact that the others basically ignored it in a somewhat selfish manner- also reflects what they would probably be like to be around later on. Rightly so- those are BIG RED FLAGS.

And these are the kind of things you really want to see about a person early on- it can save you lots of heartache!

But when someone makes you feel seen, heard, and cared about- even at the beginning- you know you are on the right track!

I look forward to hearing more about Rick!

Dr. Jenn

Organize Your Online Dating World?: A Filing-Rating System That Works!

Dr. Jenn,

I have been continuing to stay in touch with several men at one time, and I wanted to share with you my new filing-rating system!

I’ve devised a way to list them in my email files, with a rating of sorts, so I can keep in mind where my feelings about each of them stand, in terms of potential.

So, I keep an email folder for each one, and when I title the folders, if I put an AA in front of their name, they are among those at the top of the list!

After a few questionable yellow flag issues (such as hogging 80% of a phone conversation) I may remove one of the A's, and they move to the A category, and from there perhaps to the B category. This helps me to remember where each is.

After meeting them each in person, they often either move to the AA category, or completely off the list if the meeting does not feel right. Those in the B category are guys I can't really see myself with, but for some reason I stay in distant touch with them.

Seems to be helping me keep thing straight! What do you think?!

Lisa

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Wow, Lisa, I like your ingenuity!!

I have to admit that back when I was juggling, I would often forget Who I told What!! It could get a little awkward!

So, I like your idea of being organized so you can keep track of how interested you are in people!

When internet dating, you can have so many balls up in the air, all at different stages, that it can feel a bit overwhelming! So anything you can do to make it more simple, is great!!

I also love that you update the rating when you notice Red Flags! That is so awesome! Because you have the rating system, it keeps you noticing them even more perhaps- so you don’t ignore them!!

That’s a mistake so many people make in the early stages of dating! Plus- it helps you stay conscious about making the best decisions for YOU, every step of the way, instead of just sliding along!

And in addition to what you suggest, I always suggest that people have a totally separate email account that they use only for online dating- makes things much easier to follow! And, folks, please don't use your real name as your login for that account- instead go with something that matches your online profile's handle or tag line! Clever, safe, and easy for folks to remember who they are talking to as well!

So, onward & upward with clarity in your mind and warmth in your heart!!

Dr. Jenn

Readers: What do you think of Lisa's system? What helps you keep track of your online dating life? Please share!